Jessica Kane is a body confidence advocate, feminist, plus-size woman, and fashion blogger. Her blog, The Life and Style of Jessica, has gained popularity after her body positive message to women everywhere.
In today’s culture, the term “plus-size” often has negative connotations for men and women. Many people think it is only women who face unrealistic standards of beauty, but that is far from the truth. Men also deal with insecurities about their physical appearance. People may feel ashamed or embarrassed to be labeled as plus-size, but two words shouldn’t have the power to tear down someone’s self-esteem or confidence.
Kane recently posted a picture of her in a swimsuit on instagram not wearing a coverup. She was told that she was “brave” for posting this. Why should someone be considered brave for wearing a swimsuit? It shouldn’t matter if you are or aren’t a certain size.
Kane’s response: “I’ve been told how brave I am for not having a coverup, but going without a wrap would only take bravery if I cared what others thought of me, but I don’t. I spend my time worrying about things I CAN control and this day, I was only thinking about how fab I felt and how much sun I was catching.”
The definition of bravery is “a quality of spirit that enables you to face danger or pain without showing fear.” How did feeling confident in your own skin become bravery? Bravery is fighting an addiction, reaching out for help, or battling a tragic illness. Bravery is not wearing a swimsuit at the beach or being confident. Kane stresses the importance of living life and focusing on what really matters.
It is important to have a sense of self-worth that comes from within and not another person. Confidence can be confused for thinking you’re better than someone else, making it seem like a competition between two people. A competition nobody signed up for. Confidence is rather walking into a room and not comparing yourself to anyone or having an irrational fear on whether or not someone thinks you’re pretty or likes your clothing.
Kane is an inspiration to many speaking out against body shaming and being proud of who you are and what you look like– something that many people need to learn.